Getting Dumped By Text Message!
#1
Posted 04 September 2008 - 06:14 AM
Someone else suggested to me that these days its pretty common and is not meant to hurt your feelings (yeah right!) just be a quick painless way of doing it with no arguements and no room for negotiation.
So whats your opinions??? Is it a cowardly thing or do i just need to catch up with the modern times??
#2
Posted 04 September 2008 - 06:56 AM
I don't think it would be nice to have happen but if you were afraid of your partner for physical or mental battering then text message would be ideal!
I don't think I have done it but I might have.
#3
Posted 04 September 2008 - 07:44 AM
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#4
Posted 04 September 2008 - 07:47 AM
#5
Posted 04 September 2008 - 09:23 AM
She should have had the decency to have told you to your face that she wanted to split up & why. I think it wasn't very considerate or well mannered to do so, so you're better off without her as she's shown her 'true' colours.
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#6
Posted 04 September 2008 - 01:17 PM
the reason being when i tried to do it face to face on serveral occasions he kept talking me round when i knew it really wasn't what i wanted.
#7
Posted 04 September 2008 - 03:03 PM
I guess email is the modern "dear John" letter.
#8
Posted 04 September 2008 - 03:43 PM
A very short relationship I suppose is OK to end by text.
Ending face to face is more painful to both parties (or can be) but I have always done so as it is instinctually the "right" thing to do. I am not 100% sure this is correct...why is it more respectful? It feels so so I am agreeing with the majority (for once), I am just not sure why and therefore I question it.
This post has been edited by Crystalpuma: 04 September 2008 - 03:43 PM
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#9
Posted 04 September 2008 - 04:15 PM
for example dumping by text is only better for the person doing the dumping as theres no consequence as such with all comebacks/replys being easily ignored! Where as for the person being dumped by text has no recourse or way of gettting answers etc, so no balance. In that way face to face is more civil and by that default respectful of the other persons feelings where as text dumping is very selfish.
#10
Posted 04 September 2008 - 06:38 PM
*hug*
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#13
Posted 05 September 2008 - 06:18 AM
#14
Posted 05 September 2008 - 11:01 AM
I personally hate the mobile phone and what it has done to attention spans and respect
I don't think it is personal just their means of doing something
depending on how much you knew each other she may just have played it toally remotely
#15
Posted 05 September 2008 - 06:32 PM
Shes not that much of a technology freak like most young people - eg I'm always fixing her laptop and not that reliant on text like some people. She talks more than texting.
Its almost like shes made a decision even she isnt that happy with or maybe someones pressurising her. She used to have a control freak ex who would control her by withholding child maintenance and spying on her etc. maybe theres other factors she wont tell me!
#16
Posted 07 September 2008 - 01:59 PM
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#17
Posted 07 September 2008 - 04:51 PM
Its happened to me twice and now I know I was better off without both of them.
When it comes to leaving someone its better done in person no matter how long you've been with them
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#18
Posted 07 September 2008 - 05:34 PM
Strangely some of her friends who were also friends of mine have blocked me as well and are refusing to even talk to me too. Id love to know whats been said.
#19
Posted 07 September 2008 - 07:02 PM
Generally I do think it's wrong though, if you've been in an intense relationship then it definately should be done face to face.
Warren, I really wouldn't worry mate, unfortunately I don't think your going to find out, im afraid there's not much I can say to help you but I hope you can move quickly
#20
Posted 07 September 2008 - 07:05 PM